Saturday, January 28, 2012

Work in progress...


I'm committed now. I've said yes and booked a hotel room in Rarotonga. Not that there was ever any question about me returning to competition. I've missed it. Dropping off the map in 2007 left a big hole in my life. A hole that filled up with grief and worry for my dying parents and made me angry and lonely. I don't mean that I was alone. My son was back in Toronto, I hung out with friends, went on the occasional date, worked out at the gym and in my outrigger, I took up tennis and stand up paddling... Reviewing the checklist in my head, I was convinced that I was moving forward and getting on with life. Instead, I was just getting four years older.


Last year, in an attempt to regain some competitive spirit, I joined an outrigger club and completed my goal of racing in 2 events. I also did an adventure race with some guys from work that required me to paddle 12km and run a 6.5km leg through the York Forest. I felt a little like my old self but training was hard. In the intervening years I'd developed a taste for pinot grigio and shiraz and rediscovered my old friend, Cheeses. I'd hung a giant flatscreen tv in my basement and gotten used to doing what I wanted, when I wanted; sleeping until noon on weekends, lying on the couch watching hours of recorded programs, eating bad food and drinking every night. (I also suddenly had insight into the mind of every single guy I've known from my teens 'til now.)


I'd gained 20lbs and, because I hadn't really looked in a mirror for 4 years, it was like I'd gone to sleep one night weighing 135 and woken the next day at 155. It was a shock but, on the plus side, I'd finally gotten those C cups I'd wished for when I was 14! Compounding the weight issue, pronounced bunions now twisted my feet painfully. Ugh, I don't even want to talk about it. Just standing up first thing in the morning became a challenge.


Okay, so obviously things had to change. I was hoping for some external catalyst to come along and transform me. When that didn't happen I had to admit that all the hackneyed psycho-babble was right. When you can't change your circumstances, you have to change yourself. 


Trying to get back into some kind of routine, I started running again. It's always been my go-to activity. It requires minimal equipment and you can do it anytime, anywhere, in any weather. Plus, I genuinely enjoy it. But you try strapping on a 20lb fleshpack and see how enjoyable it is! In fact, everything is more difficult; riding a bike up a hill, moving an outrigger against the wind. And forget body weights! Push ups + 20lb fleshpack, body row + 20lb fleshpack, chin ups +...who am I kidding? I just stopped doing chin ups altogether. I used to like that gyms had mirrored walls reflecting your progress back at you. Now I just resent it.


The funny thing about life though, is once you start taking responsibility for yourself, the universe responds with gifts to support and promote your efforts. Gifts, I have to point out, that wouldn't be noticed or appreciated while you're feeling sorry for yourself.


Deciding to rejoin the world seemed to be the hardest part. Once I'd done that, it was like I flicked a switch. I received an email asking if I'd like to be part of an OC-6 crew planning to race in the Cook Islands in November 2012. There's no waffling on a decision like this. You're in or you're out. If I said yes and bailed later on, I'd be burning an important bridge and no one would ever consider me a serious racer again. I said yes and suddenly realized that it was true. I absolutely and unquestionably wanted to commit to this crew. And just like that, I stopped filling the void with food and wine and started getting up at 5am every day to go to the gym.

Okay, of course it never actually happens 'just like that'. The tools and support systems have to be in place if you're going to accomplish your goals. And I have that in spades. Over the past 18 years, I've trained with amazing coaches and athletes. The things I've learned from them form a solid foundation upon which I continue to build. I constantly refer to my training logs from those years, for workouts, inspiration or reminders that it wasn't always easy. I review the workouts and tips I find in books and on the web pages of athletes I admire and work them into my routine. On top of that, I'm fortunate to be surrounded by some truly impressive people. Continually inspiring and supportive, they provide the impetus for all kinds of endeavors.

One of the most important springboards for my personal transformation was the Christmas gift I received from my friend, Marisha. It's a framed magazine article about a women's OC-6, the winners of the 1990 Na Wahine o Ke Kai. When she tore it out of Shape magazine in January of 1991, Marisha didn't even know what an outrigger was. It was those women, propelling a 400 pound boat 41 miles across the treacherous Kaiwi Channel, that impressed her so much. She'd stuck it on her fridge as motivation when she took up rowing and it's hung there all these years, helping her stay focused on her goals while she put herself through law school and won a boatload of medals and awards in various sports. Now she was passing it on to me, saying she hoped it would inspire me in the same way.


Until I got this gift, I'd forgotten the importance of touchstones in the process of achievement. When you're about to let fatigue, pain or inertia get the best of you, there has to be a timely reminder that you're better than that, to switch your attitude to "GO"! Do the work, stay focused and, as Winston Churchill said, "Deserve Victory!".

I've hung the photo in my kitchen where I see it every day; walking down the stairs in the morning, preparing meals, getting my coffee, sitting on the stairs tying my shoes or gathering my things to head out the door. It's encouraging on so many levels. I'm inspired by the words printed on the page, by the accomplishments of those women and by those of the friend who gave it to me. When my brain tells me to skip a workout because I'm sore or tired or I just feel like having chicken wings, its a  powerful token of what I hope to accomplish 10 months from now, or next year or the year after that.


And because it was a gift, I know there are people who believe I'm capable of big things, even when I question it myself.


I don't know anything about the conditions we'll face in the South Pacific. I've never raced on the open ocean or heard anything about the crews against which we'll compete. What I do know is, I have everything I need to do the work, put in the kilometres and prepare myself to compete at the highest level of my ability. I'll be ready.






Thursday, January 26, 2012

I've never really been a fan of the Oxford comma. Even before advances in technology promoted the compression of language, I thought it was extravagant. Seriously, how many commas and conjunctions do you need to get your point across? Context has to count for something.
I haven't written it off completely because so many of its proponents are people or journals I respect. Lately though, I find myself edging closer to partial acceptance because of this...



A couple of things referencing 1988 dropped into my mailbox today. They made me smile...




Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Considering how much online shopping I do, its kind of surprising that I haven't been the victim of fraud or identity theft. Today, when I logged on to do some banking, I noticed a charge on my credit card for $500.00 at The Beer Store.  I don't buy beer but I did spend over $100 at the liquor store this past weekend. I thought about it - was I overcharged by accident? No and anyway, I used my debit card. Are they owned by the same corporation? No. Then I noticed the posting date was Monday. I was at work on Monday and out with a friend in the evening. So, clearly it wasn't my expense. I called my bank and they're on it. They've cancelled the card and are sending me a new chip and pin. I feel better now that I'm not funding a field party in small-town Ontario.




Later today, there was a union rep in our office. I guess he had a bunch of meetings at our building and needed a hotel spot to check his email, surf porn or whatever it is he does all day. After lunch, one of the guys said he was downstairs in our lounge, lying down on the couch, sound asleep. I wanted to go take a cell pic so bad but you know a union person would NOT be happy about that, after all the TTC shenanigans. Seriously, how can they keep complaining about negative stereotypes when they're constantly reinforcing them?

Monday, January 23, 2012


This past weekend, all of our female cousins (maternal) got together at my sister's house. It was fun to catch up with everyone.



Judi, Linda & Debi arrived from Winnipeg in the middle of a snow squall. Their plane circled for 45 minutes, supposedly waiting for workers to clear snow from the runway. That never happened so they finally landed in the messy conditions, skidding along the runway to a stop. Isabel's flight from Regina landed in Toronto about the same time, in the same way. After that Pearson diverted flights to Ottawa until they cleaned things up. The Calgary contingent; Susan, Dale, Marie, Dianne, Barb & baby Atticus, got a brief tour of Ottawa airport before they were able to get on a flight back to Pearson. We were supposed to meet them for dinner but they didn't get in until 10:30 in the evening. Once they had checked into their hotel on South Sheridan way, Susy called - they were all still on Calgary time and wanted to go out!

Amanda arrived from Winnipeg early Friday morning. I had the sound turned off on my cell so didn't see that she had texted a couple of times. She was supposed to take a cab to Laurel's but forgotten her address. And Laurel wasn't answering her phone. We got her sorted though.
Julia was already in Toronto. She works for an MP who is having surgery at Toronto Western (big secret) but she was able to get the weekend off and arrived Friday afternoon around dinner time.


Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Here in the west we love our gadgets. We have at least one with us at all times (sometimes more) we line up for days outside an Apple store when a new version is released and we mourn their creators when they die. So...have you ever wondered where all our gadget crap is made? How it's made? Who is making it?
This week's podcast from This American Life is a brilliant (and entertaining) report on technology giant FOXCONNThey produce almost all of our tech tools, from the most basic components to finished, packaged products. Click to listen to EPISODE 454: MR. DAISEY AND THE APPLE FACTORY


Monday, January 09, 2012

I saw a familiar face on the news wrap-up tonight - remember Fiona who used to paddle with the women's team in the early days? She did something that happens quite often - locked her baby and keys in the car - Link with video-goodness . For some reason City felt it was capital "N" News.  As always, I was impressed with her absolute cool in a tense situation. Reporters arrived while her 2-year old daughter was still locked in the vehicle. That's got to be annoying. Firefighters were quickly on the scene but Fiona had called her husband to bring the spare set of keys so they waited for him. It took about 30 minutes to get there - he arrived just as they were about to break a window. I knew Fiona was getting married a few years ago but I hadn't heard about her having a baby.
I did the exact same thing when Ryan was about 18 months old. I had just dropped off some dry cleaning and, while I was putting him back into his car seat, the driver's door swung shut, keys on the seat. I closed Ryan's door before I realized the lock was engaged. The best and the worst thing about older cars is how easy they are to break into. This was an old Vista Cruiser (that's right, Eric's car on That 70s Show) so, after a moment of dismay, I went back into the dry cleaners to borrow a coat hanger, stuck it down the door panel and popped the lock. 

Wednesday, January 04, 2012

Let's see... swap the gender references, switch naked bars to shopping malls, wine instead of beer & liquor, yoga & paddling not hunting & motorcycles and the toilet seat stays down. Leave the rest and... yup, that pretty much sums up my life...



Sunday, January 01, 2012


I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.
Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're Doing Something.
So that's my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody's ever made before. Don't freeze, don't stop, don't worry that it isn't good enough, or it isn't perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.
Whatever it is you're scared of doing, Do it.
~~ Neil Gaiman